Hi Brendan,
First, as others have said, I am sorry for your diagnosis.
I can say, I had a slightly similar experience as you did when it was first discovered. I was in the neuroICU, and the vascular surgeon came in after an angio and informed me of my avm. He gave me a minimal explanation for it (that its a bundle of weak vessels), and said I had three options to pick from; cranio, embo, GK. He didn’t tell me any risks of GK besides that I could bleed again in the time. He told me they’d be ready to do the GK in two weeks. At the moment, I was calmed, but after doing some research on the internet, I realized there was so much more than what that surgeon said. I decided I wanted to return home to be with my mother so I could have help and for emotional recovery. At the UM, they gave me a much better explanation and my neurosurgeon explained a lot more about GK and the risks (they don’t even know why the other surgeon mentioned cranio and embo with me, they are not at all on the table for me). So happy I did not have the original doctor treat me.
Alright, now to move on to what I can say (and I will say it as objectively as I can without personal experience); it is difficult to give advice specifically from experience. Every person is different from the other. Currently, it is difficult to say whether it is better to leave an unruptured avm untreated or to treat it. This was done under studies, but was met with accusations of poor experimentation and research methods (you can find more of this in our group here). There is, however, to point that the larger avms are less likely to rupture. This is not a guarantee of course. I have a larger one and well… On the alternative, the goal would be to cure yourself of a concern of a rupture, an event that could go any way. However, as noted, the likelihood of rupture if unruptured is also quite low. Further, you should not be too concern about the radiation passing through tissue. While daunting in thought, the only location where the radiation can be effective is where each beam intersects. This is an extremely small and precise location. On the other side of concerns regarding GK, there is nothing wrong with being concerned of RIC. It was a massive concern when I was doing my research and discussing with my doctors. It must be noted that a lot of research on RN regarding avm treatment is sparse at best. Most research regarding it will involve other conditions. At about a year and a half, I started experiencing RICs when I had my first ever large seizure which resulted in a noticeable edema being present (I have theories as to why this occurs for us, but I will not state them because I’m just a philosopher, not a doctor or a biomedical researcher). I began a regimen of steroids. It was hard, there will be no lie about this, but, it was what I needed. I have my headaches, I have less energy, and I can’t really play football anymore. Certainly moments of bummers, but, I have a significant trade off; living. Some other things are missing from life, I have had a couple of seizures in the recovery, which means I cannot drive as well right now, I also travel quite a bit less. However, I do not suggest the loss of certain comforts being the reason you do not pursue a treatment. Maybe it becomes a little more difficult to drive your daughter to certain places if you are in a position you cannot drive (not a guarantee you will be for the record). However, there are many ways to work through life to accept this and work around it. You don’t become boxing champion without taking a few punches, ya know?
The best advice then, is to bring these up with the doctors you meet, and try to find doctors that have significant experience in treating avms (Barrow is a good location to seek advice and help). Keep doing your research, keep asking questions. However, keep in mind to always make rational judgements. It is a terrifying experience and having the weight of decisions we must make in our position is occasionally far too overwhelming for us. In my research, I often would experience an anxiety attack and would have to be constantly calmed by my mother. In reality, I got so absorbed into the research, my mom suggested I stop because it started to seem as though I read everything that could be read.
At this point, I am rambling and my response is getting too long. Do your research, go over it with a doctor with a good background in our disorder, and on top of that, remain calm and keep your blood cool. The doctors (the good ones anyways) are genuinely working in your best interest.
Best regards,
Kev