This is frankly quite common for anyone who has survived an AVM rupture or any other brain trauma, they’ll have a reduction in their ability to control their behavior especially their temper and action but it usually gets better with time. if you ant you can consult to a neuropsychologist for solutions or put him in a support group so he could talk about it and feel better.
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With brain damage comes a host of problems, including loss of inhibition. Guys who come back from war with head injuries often have anger issues, and sometimes families dissolve because of it. Same thing with some AVMs/bleeds.
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There could be one of many or many reasons why your son is angry. It could be the why me anger of his AVM. It could be the I’m scared anger of his AVM. It could be damage to his brain caused by his AVM - some brain injuries cause chemical alteration which changes behaviour. It could be the fatigue of his brain injury which is common with brain injury. It could be frustration from needing to take naps. It could be the frustration of recovery, particularly if it slow and even more so if it arduous. It could be anger that he is not currently/will no longer live his life in quite the way he wants to. It could also be drug side-effect or drug-interaction (don’t just look up single drugs but check combinations as well). Every cause can be helped to some degree but only he can ask for that help.
As to telling him, only you will know how he is likely to take that, if he would take it better from someone else, or if you need to bring him along slowly as suggested by someone earlier. Although it is not the norm by any means, if there is a specialist that he sees regularly you could get a message to that specialist to say that you are concerned about this, ask for their confidence and then leave it in their hands.
What isn’t in doubt is that if it is going to be a long-term issue then he does need to find strategies to deal with it which may require the support of those close to him. If he is overwhelmed then he needs to know that it’s ok to take a break, even when he’s visiting. Allow him to wander off to a room and have a rest. If he’s frustrated what can pull him out of it or make him laugh?