We have been using the following for memory aides, encouragement, to do lists, and reminders for how to destress.
-Dry erase boards
-Mirrors: to have me write date and time I took meds so I don't freak out later thinking I forgot to take them (you can write on them with dry erase markers and it wipes off)
And the newest thing we've found
-Smart Sheets. They use static to stay stuck to the wall and you erase them with rubbing alcohol. They don't mess up paint on walls.
It's double the fun. I get to "write on the walls" without getting in trouble, and it gives the people taking care of me and myself a place to leave notes.
On mine I have my log in info for this site, Methods to destress, a list of where everyone is at-I used to think when people walked out of the house that they died.
There's also a To Do list for the people around me. The to do list has two functions. One I have a way to remember to ask for certain things, and two we cross them off so I know I've asked.
I also have the last time I've washed sheets. I've never minded doing laundry. It's become an awesome destresser. Your mind can only concentrate on one thing at a time. I'd prefer to do those things than have a total meltdown.
Since I can tell when my anxiety is ramping up it helps to have a place to go that has ways to calm down listed.
I can also list the things I repeatedly ask (where something is, how to do something, where everyone is during the day), etc.
It helps on two fronts.
One-it's all together in one place for reference
two-it alleviates my frustration from not being able to find and remember things.
Three-other people can leave notes of encouragement.
It's amazing what one tool can do to help alleviate stress and frustration.
The site for the smart sheets is below. I hope it helps and please please please repost it on any groups you are part of.