Site Etiquette for AVMSurvivors

This site is a virtual community intended to be a safe place for patients and family members as young as age 12, to visit for information, discussion, and mutual support. Members come from many backgrounds. Some have a strong religious faith, and others no faith; some are young people and others adults, rich and poor, graduate educated or taught by life. Our common denominators are that we share a life journey and we try to help each other.

Though we get occasional visits from medical doctors, the site is not routinely supported by medical professionals. Nobody here can diagnose you or tell you what your treatment choices “should” be. We might inform your choices by sharing individual experiences and information developed by study as laypeople. But this community is not intended to replace the advice or treatment of licensed medical professionals. Readers should validate any information they take away from here, against the experience of a licensed medical doctor. Site owners and moderators are not legally responsible for the accuracy of information shared on the site.

Visitors should also be aware that our discussion forums and groups are publicly accessible and searched by Google. Your speech here should be considered “public”. If you’re tempted to write something about another person that you wouldn’t say to their face, then we counsel you to think first. Speech can be consequential.

This community is supported by unpaid volunteer moderators who admit new members and monitor the public areas of the sites. Very often, moderators are themselves patients or family members of patients. Most of the time, moderators tend to keep a low profile, except in their roles as members of the community who may be well informed about the state of medicine and research.

There are occasional exceptions to the low profile that moderators and site owners like to keep. Moderators have administrative authority to warn, edit, delete, temporarily suspend, or permanently ban members who engage in any of the following kinds of behavior on the site:

SPAM: Unsolicited advertisements or messages off-topic to the mission of the community or otherwise intended to generate financial gain for the poster or others. Physician self-advertisement or patient solicitation will be treated as SPAM. Regrettably, we must also treat fund raising (such as GoFundMe) or solicitations by members on their own behalf in the same way.
Members should report to the moderators, any site email inviting them to correspond with another member off-site, especially concerning undefined or “urgent” topics. We are becoming large enough to be a target for spammers and scammers, and we’ve had to ban a few from soliciting for scams.

Offensive Content: Profanity, pornographic text or images, sexually or racially charged references, advocacy or facilitation of illegal activity, or defamatory posts. If you wouldn’t say it in front of your neighbor’s ten year old child, then please don’t write it here.

Personal Attacks on Members: Honest people may disagree on facts or opinions without engaging in personal attacks, punishing or angry written speech. We are here to share our journeys with others not as critics or judges, but as friends and co-participants. If you feel you must disagree with a position taken by another member, please try to remain courteous. Personal attacks will not be tolerated in either the public forums or by site email to individual members. If you receive such a message, please forward it to a moderator for corrective action. Likewise, please do not cross-post private messages to public discussions without the agreement of all participants.

Religious content or conversations of a religious nature: Because this is an international community, comprising people of many faiths and beliefs, we ask that members restrict their discussion and advice related to religion, to the Prayer and Healing Requests group. Others can be invited to join you there if they wish.

Medically Dangerous or Negligent Information: Postings may be removed if they advocate for unproven or dangerous therapies, medically unsupervised withdrawal from medication, or which threaten or encourage self-harm. Any discussion about therapies that are not yet proven in the context of mainstream medicine will be placed in the Complementary Therapies category, or may be removed. Patients in crisis will be referred to local medical resources or national telephone crisis hot lines for assistance. All site content, and assessment of unproven or dangerous claims is at the sole authority of the site moderators and owners.

Practitioner Reviews: We welcome and encourage personal comment or reviews of hospitals or doctors (by name, specialty and location) with whom you have had a positive experience or outcome. To keep our community supportive and positive, and due to fairness, legal and other concerns, we cannot support negative reviews of practitioners by name in the public forums of the site.

Rev June 20, 2017

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Hello. Is there anyway I can find what I’ve posted to people? I read something from a man that was so encouraging and I can’t find it. It was on cerebellum surgery. I’d love to read it again as I’m due for surgery in about 3 weeks on my cerebellum. Hope I can somehow find it again. I’ve been looking everyday… Thanku…debbie

Hi Debbie

Have you tried using the search engine? At the top right of the screen, you will see a magnifying glass. Try “cerebellum surgery” as keywords, and see what comes up.

Another thing that you might want to do: make a post to ask if anyone else can help you find the thread. Click on the butterfly (top left), then on General. Start your thread by clicking on the plus sign in the blue circle. The key is a good subject line: I would probably use something like “Cerebellum surgery – can you help me find the thread?” With any luck someone will remember another few key words for the search engine which will lead you in the right direction. Who knows, maybe the original poster will pipe up!

Good luck with your surgery coming up!

Seenie from ModSupport

Hi,

Where do I find the “Posting” option? I can’t seem to find it. Thank you.

Hey msngpcs,
My name is Merl. I’m a member of the moderator support team here on Ben’s Friends.
I’m more than willing to assist, but I’m a little unclear about “…the “Posting” option?..”.
By posting the message above I see you have worked how to reply to a post. That’s brilliant.

When you say ’ “Posting” option are you talking of setting up a new topic?
On the right you will see a blue circle with an arrow. If you place your cursor on that circle, it states ‘begin composing a reply to this topic’. Now, at the top of this page, on the right there’s your avatar, then 3 black bars. If you click those 3 bars a dropdown menu appears a list of categories with titles ‘Latest, Unread and Top’
If you click on ‘Latest’ a list of posts in chronological order appears. If you then look at the Blue circle on the right, instead of seeing an arrow in the circle you’ll now see a plus symbol (+)
By clicking the Blue + a textbox will appear and from there you’re able to post a new topic.

Hope it helps
Merl from the Modsupport Team

Hi Merl,

Thanks for the help!