This is not meant to offend anyone who has chosen to have children ok? Good!
Having children is the norm in our society. Women are expected to produce babies. There are women who would clearly find life harder, much harder by having a child but they still go ahead and have one, or two, or three, or four. I am interested in why anyone would want to make their life harder and more stressful by deliberately doing this when they already have a brain injury to contend with. Getting pregnant is easy, anyone can do it. It's not a miracle, it's nature. Why complicate your life when you have been through so much?
I don't buy into the 'because it's sooo worth it.' stuff and am interested in what you guys with your brain injuries think about your choices.
Tv / film/ the media bombards us with images of family life and kids. Adverts seem to think that sofas are only for adults with kids. And houses are for filling with kids. Forget about all the other fun stuff you could fill a house with! I think that people put more thought into booking a holiday or buying a new car than how much bringing a child into the world could /would complicate things and change their life, and not necessarily for the better.
I am not anti-children. But I don't find them interesting enough to have one. There is other stuff to do. Neither will all the books in shops about childcare / babies names etc change my mind. I also know that it would be, for me, the wrong thing to do and in-considerate. I do not want a child to be on the receiving end of me when I am having a bad day. I don't think it is fair to bring a child into the world and expect it to tolerate me when I need rest and quiet. QUIET and ORDER! Also I do not want the life-time responsibility that is a child.
I am genuinely interested in your thoughts guys and gals?
(population 9 billion and counting...)