So I find myself fearing that a dream. A hope that I have will not be achieved. i, after much effort. Much like that of one becoming a doctor, or a priest, I achieved my goal of becoming an airline pilot. Ultimately becoming a captain for American Eagle. This was the achievement of a dream. A dream since i was a child. While i am sadened by how my career has ended, I am proud of what I achieved. Something I, and a couple of flight instructors didn't think I could achieve.
I benefited from these accomplishments. People that i just met would grant me a bit more respect because I did what they believed they could not. i think, while women don't hold as much value to a mans' profession, I am sure that women valued my profession a bit more, as few men were professional pilots.
Now I find myself in a difficult position. I have lost my career. As AVM survivors know, we have become different people. I am not who I was. I do not have my career, my confidence, my physical, and to an extent, my mental abilities. I am not who I was.
My latest fear is that I may not achieve my ultimate goal. The goal of meeting, and marrying the woman I love.
I achieved much in my professional life. I didn't go as far as I thought I would, but went farther than I thought I would. Now I find myself faced with what amounts to be my final goal. One that I think I took for granted. That eventually I would meet the woman that I would marry.
Perhaps I did, only I didn't realize it because I didn't know myself as I do now.
Now I must learn to, at least, like myself enough to allow a woman to like me. Something that is a work in progress.
I have gone to hating who I have become, to just not being used to who I am. I have gone from thinking that the man I was is dead, to a part of the man I was is dead.
The challenge now is to love and know the man that I still am. Those qualities about me that I never relied on because my profession and other accomplishments sufficed.
My question of you is this. For those of you who have been in my position, what did you do? How did you put yourself out there? Presenting yourself to another, someone who you didn't really know anymore? How do I emphasize my traits, as my accomplishments are no longer pertinent?
Greg