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Permalink Reply by Diane on February 14, 2012 at 7:54pm

I agree with you!! When I was in the hospital at the age of 23, the doctor kept walking into the waiting room and would say "I can't believe she is still alive"! Well, I showed him, and it has been close to 30 years!!

Now -- its your turn -- you show the doctor what faith and hope does for a person!!

Take Care!

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Permalink Reply by Gavin's mom <3 on February 14, 2012 at 8:23pm

Hi! Congrats to you and your amazing recovery. As a nurse myself (i worked in the neonatal intensive care unit) we have alot of faith and hope for our patients. We unfortunately also need to educate patients and family of possible outcomes or we would not be doing our jobs. I can tell you some nurses have more faith then others and I am so sorry you werent given the faith and hope you were looking for.

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ModeratorPermalink Reply by Swami Jim on February 14, 2012 at 9:42pm

?????....how many of some of us where our families have had plans for our funerals? I'm one of those with plans of me under 6 feet. Either I'm just too stubborn to quit wiggling, or maybe people like us are born to learn about BLESSINGS!

Anyway...I just won't complain.

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Permalink Reply by Gavin's mom <3 on February 14, 2012 at 10:46pm

I am so sorry if i offended you in any way. That was not my intentions at all! I was just coming from a mothers and nurse's side.

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ModeratorPermalink Reply by Swami Jim on February 14, 2012 at 10:57pm

There was no offence! We all here are so Blessed, we have taken a walk where so many are alreay gone. It's been a path that has never been easy.

I was ?????(asking) so many questions. Why are we here, was this a curse, what's the point for it....so many, many questions.

I just don't know! I accept my blessing, and no longer ask!

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Permalink Reply by Gavin's mom <3 on February 14, 2012 at 11:09pm

Yes we are all very blessed!!! I dont go a single day without kissing my blessings (sons). I always have questions about my son; why him? why us? why is god testing us again? I hope i am able to get to a point like yourself where I no longer have to ask these questions!

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ModeratorPermalink Reply by Swami Jim on February 14, 2012 at 11:21pm

The more asking, the more it can really hurt. But every once in a while, some one from above just gives you an answer when at the last you expect! Some times a gift, some times a lesson. When you get some of these answers...you are there to teach!

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ModeratorPermalink Reply by Ninibeth Ramirez on February 14, 2012 at 10:15pm

I think some doctors only see the medical part .. express what they have studied... I know that they have to tell what the study's demonstrate but the problem is the way..

when I fell into a coma the first neuro surgeon who gave me first aid told my family they had to accept that I had little chance of survival ... that if I survived (unlikely) would be blind, deaf, dumb, like a vegetable .. my mom told him that God would heal me .. dr laughed at her ... after the coma and I was released pending a surgery to remove my avm, my mom decided to seek another opinion and never return back whith that dr .. my experience with the other dr, which operated me, was a man of faith and very Christian ...

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ModeratorPermalink Reply by Suzy E on February 14, 2012 at 10:33pm

Hi Jay,
I really don't know the answer but it seems better to have a doctor give the worst case scenario and have things come out better. I guess it makes them look better to. I guess it's up to us and our loved ones to stay positine when faced with a medical challenge. But I really don't know. Probably something to ask them to get their perspective. Good question!

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Permalink Reply by flower on February 15, 2012 at 7:02am

Hi Jay,

I was the older than you and counted as an adult though only in my mid-teens
when I had my brain bleed. As I was an adult they needed my consent. The dr sat on the end of my bed and said they had to operate. If they didn't I would have another bleed and it would be fatal.
I said 'fatal as in dead?'
They said 'yes.'
They ran through all the possible outcomes b4 I signed the consent form. They were all pretty grim and included stuff like blindness and death. I signed it.
I'm still here.
Drs are drs. They did the right thing, and I prefer to be told things straight.

On another matter,
HeyJim,
I wish I could get to the point of not asking questions and just being.

Best

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ModeratorPermalink Reply by Louisa on February 15, 2012 at 7:49am

Jay, I also had my brain bleed in 2007. My doctor (who was the best of the best) told my family that he didn't know if I would survive and if I did, he didn't know the results. I belive they have to tell our loved ones the truth, as it is at that time. After my bleed it took 2 years for the radiation to take my AVM away..During that final appointment with him, after telling me I was AVM Free he told me I was his miracle case. To answer your question, I don't think the doctors know what to expect..they just do the best they can! Thank God!

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